Happy Birthday Scorchy: Our hearts break all over again
This showed up on my Facebook news feed today – I am sure it showed up for many of you too.
My heart breaks all over again.
How do you feel when you get notifications like this one after the death of a loved one?
A few months ago Julie Frayn, the sister of the gorgeous Carolyn, who passed away in 2015, left this comment on a post I wrote prompted by a similar birthday reminder for Carolyn.
I have a question to ask. One I’ve grappled with for some time. A new perspective may help. I have considered removing Carolyn’s birth date from her FB profile. It is definitely jarring for it to pop up, maybe for me most, and maybe I’m being selfish in my idea to take it down. I wonder what you think.
My sincere apologies to Julie – having promised her I would ask the community what you thought of this suggestion, it completely slipped my mind to do so. Thinking of Scorchy today, Julie’s question came back to me. I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Remembering Scorchy and Carolyn
Remind yourself again, or acquaint yourself afresh with Scorchy’s writings by reading The Sarcastic Boob
Read Kathi’s beautiful odes to friendships
Thank you, Marie. I am trying to post some writing that Scorchy composed last summer for her blog. She never got to post it herself, so she left me the means of doing it for her if she could not. When I first got confirmation of this legacy, I had to grieve over that concrete confirmation of her death. Then, I thought I would be able to tackle posting for her by the time her birthday came around. And, of course, I find my heart is breaking all over again today. But I will persist and do it. Because I owe her that much.
Grief seems to be our constant companion. Love to you, my friend. xoxo, Kathi
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Kathi, thank you so much for doing this. I know it is a loving sacrifice.
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And there’s Shelli, too. :’-( http://accidentalamazon.com/blog/2016/02/13/remembering-shelli/
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