Healing balm to my soul


Yesterday I allowed myself the luxury of wallowing in my despair. After I wrote my blog post, I logged off, buried myself under the covers of the duvet and cried and railed at the world. I grieved the lost babies I will never get to hold, the lost opportunities to conceive, the loss of a breast that will never get to suckle a child, the loss of friends and family to cancer, the loss of past loves, so many heartbreaks and losses we have to bear in this lifetime.

This morning I woke up with red rimmed and swollen eyes, and logging on again, read through each and every one of your comments. Such an outpouring of compassion – your words were like a healing balm to my soul.

In amongst your comments, I read Moria’s comment on the post what to say to someone with cancer – “always be compassionate to those fighting cancer”.  How true Moira and I would go further and say always be compassionate to everyone you meet – for we are all fighting a battle with some challenge in our lives. For some it may be cancer, for some infertility, for some the loss of a beloved parent, spouse, partner or friend. As I said so many losses and heartaches in all our lives.

Do you know the meaning of the word  compassion? It means to suffer together with, and that is how I feel we are in this community when we show each other compassion. We have the power to share the suffering of each other and to lighten the burden of our fears and our sadness.

So thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your kind words and support – they truly are balm to my soul, lightening my load and lighting my journey ahead.