Special Guest Post and Book Giveaway by Lois Hjelmstad
I am honored to feature this special guest post from Lois Hjelmstad, alongside a gift from Lois to readers. I’ve known Lois online for several years now, and her beautiful poetry never fails to touch me.
How Do You Say Goodbye—to Your Breast?
How do you take a body that looks and feels healthy into treatment for breast cancer? How do you deal with a world turned upside-down? How do you say goodbye—to your breast?
The night before my first mastectomy, I wept as I wrote:
Goodbye, beloved breast
Shall I ever forget you?
Will I ever end my grieving?When first you developed in sweet innocence
I was dismayed—
I was afraid of emerging sexuality…But you became beautiful
My lover treasured you
My children nuzzled you and were nourished
I cradled you in my hands to cherish your softness…Now a dark menace has invaded you
And somehow I must bear our parting…Goodbye, beloved breast
Goodbye, beloved part of me
Goodbye, symbol of my femininity…(Excerpted from Fine Black Lines ©1993, 2003, Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad)
In my pain, poems continued to spill out. My oncologist insisted that I “do something” with them. And thus my first book, Fine Black Lines: Reflections on Facing Cancer, Fear and Loneliness, was born. (I was a little old piano teacher in tennis shoes and planned to teach until I was ninety-six.)
This book opened doors and I began to speak to support groups, doctors and nurses, college classes. Now some twenty years, 600 plus speeches, and 400,000 miles (all 50 United States, England, and Canada) later, I am turning eighty-five on October 1. My beloved ninety-three-year-old husband is ill with congestive heart failure. We can’t travel. (I have made my books available on amazon.com in print and eBooks.)
But I still want Fine Black Lines to help people, if it can. I still really, really, really want it to bring courage, comfort, and validation to thousands more women.
So.
Today and tomorrow, September 14 and 15, I am offering the eBook FREE for those two days on Amazon Kindle at http://ow.ly/vfHCQ. And I would so appreciate your letting “your people” know.
Much love to all of you, Lois
Thanks so much for doing this. I really appreciate your interest and thoughtfulness. And, if your readers find it in their hearts to do so, I’d love each of you to pass the word along.
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I’m a couple of days late to this post but am so glad I did see it. I too am always touched by Lois’s words and the emotion she evokes. I’m smiling at the image of Lois as a “little old piano teacher in tennis shoes” — such a humble juxtaposition to the powerful poet she is!
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Just caught up with your comment Nancy – you capture so beautifully how I feel about Lois’ words and yes, I cannot imagine her as a little old piano teacher either 😉
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Well, I was a little old piano teacher for almost forty years. And I stood on my head for my students at recitals. I can’t seem to add that picture here, so I’ll put it on Facebook for you, if I can.
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And thanks, Marie and Nancy, for the kind comments. Coming from you, high praise.
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Our dear Lois never fails to bring us such powerful truth and inspiration with her strong, compassionate desire to help others through her magnificent poetry. Thank you, Marie for bringing Lois’ guest post to your site. (I will be e-mailing you both to catch up on all the news since time has flown and also stood still – way too long!) much love to you Marie and Lois)
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