When someone you love has cancer

cynthia nixon

There is nothing as terrifying as hearing you have cancer – except perhaps hearing the news that someone you love has cancer.

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, it was a frightening experience; for my mother it was even more upsetting. She worried and prayed for me more than I did for myself.

When my treatment was finished, and I was getting back to some semblance of a normal life, our relationship was stronger than ever. We had come through the storm of cancer and we valued each other even more. What a cruel blow some years later then, when Mum was diagnosed with Stage IV brain cancer, a terminal and devastating diagnosis which took her life within a month of hearing the news. I felt so much more helpless when my mother was ill than I did at any point in my own illness.

When someone is diagnosed with cancer the focus is firmly on the person with the disease; but we should never lose sight of what the people who love and care for the person are also going through. Their anxiety, worries and fears for the future are just as real and just as frightening.

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