Dealing with life’s disappointments
“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way”. ~ Robert Kiyosaki
I so wanted to tell you all that I had won an award in the Irish Blog Awards last weekend, but I can’t, because I didn’t. I am not going to pretend that I am not disappointed, because I am, or rather I was at the time (well I am only human after all), and when you sit in a room full of people and your blog is flashed up on a screen in front, and for one heart-stopping moment you think it might be you…..and then… you hear another name read out instead….well, it is hard not to feel some sense of disappointment. And even worse… a feeling I wasn’t expecting, one that whispered to me, that I had let you all down. All of you who have encouraged me and lifted me along this blogger’s journey over the past year. But isn’t that just my pesky old ego whispering in my ear?
So now, what do I always do at moments like this? I look for the lesson..oh and a quote or two of course. Regular readers will be familiar with author and blogger Therese Borchard, whose wise words I often quote here. Serendipitously, Therese’s most recent blog post 21 Ways to Overcome Disappointment, is on just this very topic of dealing with life’s disappointments. Therese writes that “the human experience is an exercise in collecting disappointments and mistakes, ruminating on them for a little bit, and turning them into wisdom and growth”.
Now in the grand scheme of things, last weekend’s disappointment is minor. “Man must be disappointed with the lesser things of life before he can comprehend the full value of the greater”, wrote Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton and I have certainly learned that to be true. I quickly realised that I already have the best prize of all gained through this blog – the friendship and support of so many new friends.
But, I never want to waste a learning opportunity, so what piece of wisdom have I gained from this particular disappointment? Well, I have learned that I am more competitive than I realised, and too attached to the outcome. I need to learn a little more detachment. And if life is all about balance, and I truly believe it is, we need to have our moments of winning balanced by moments of losing. So does this mean that I am saying we should just accept losing at times and not try to be the best that we can be? Not at all. Learning to strive, to win, to achieve your dreams can only be achieved by trying to win. I feel this even more keenly since cancer. I am more motivated to give everything I do in life my total commitment and effort.
So tell me, what do you think? Have you been dealing with any disappointments lately, and what have you learned from it? How do you turn life’s lemons into lemonade? I would love for you share your wisdom here with us.