Day 3 Quotation Inspiration #HAWMC
So today’s prompt was made for me – the only trouble is which quote to choose! Should it be a favourite from Mary Oliver, Maya Angelou, Anne Lamott, or Marianne Williamson?
In the end I settled on this quote from Sally Brampton.
Sally was a journalist who wrote candidly about her life-long struggle with depression. She left a profound and lasting impression on me and I return to her writing often.
Read what she has to say on being open about her depression:
“The way that I deal with my depression these days is to talk about the way I truly feel, and not the way I think other people would like me to feel. I am rarely right about that anyway. And I have discovered that when I break the treaty of silence, I am amazed to find how many people will join me.
I know that some people find such notions of honesty and vulnerability impossible, if not abhorrent. Most of us have never learned the vocabulary of intimacy. We simply don’t know how to express our feelings. Perhaps some of us don’t need to but it’s more, I think, that most of us are frightened so we hide behind a carefully constructed social self. Much of that self is unhelpful; it is a brick wall behind which we find ourselves trapped, frightened of not being, as the therapeutic phrase goes, “good enough.”
Curiously, the best antidote to the not good enough culture is to say it out loud. We live in an imperfect world. We are imperfect beings. The more we share that, the better we will feel.
We get so conditioned not to show our natural frailty that we forget that vulnerability is a precious thing. It’s what makes us human. It is what heals us because it is connection and not separation that makes us whole.
Life is about connection. There is nothing else.
What’s your favorite quotation and why? Please share with us.
I have waaayyy too many favorite quotes, but in the context of the #HAWMC prompt, my favorite quote is, “A person who is healthy has a thousand dreams. A person who’s not healthy, has just one. And, it’s to feel better.” ~ Dr. Izabella Wentz, author
How do we create new dreams beyond the dream to just “feel better?” That’s where I am right now. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂
Thanks so much for sharing your favorite quote – it is very powerful in its simplicty
Thank you Marie. This is so good. It shows the need for spaces to be vulnerable and valued. Reminds me a lot too of Gestalt themes of the not being in touch with our feelings, the masks we make to wear, the fear that keeps them in place and the freedom when we remove them and be our true selves. There’s also something about how by being our vulnerable selves we allow the space for others to be theirs too. Much love, John
John, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment here. It strikes me that I should also have mentioned in this post, that finding someone that you can be vulnerable with, and feel safe enough to take off the mask with, is one of the most precious gifts we can give each other. I feel blessed you have given me that gift x
I think you provide that gift Marie spontaneously by your kind presence and open heart x
This is a difficult and beautiful piece written from the heart.
Deconstructing the social self to reveal the core yet real hard truth.
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What a wonderful phrase Deirdre! Thank you for taking the time to read and comment here x