On Birthdays and Ageing
Today is my birthday. I am now of a “certain age”, but like my mother before me, I don’t talk about age. Anne Lamott is a writer I admire hugely and her quote is such a beautiful celebration of the privilege of aging. It’s a wonderful quote to read any day, but today, for me, it is particularly special.
When I find myself tutting over another grey hair or my ever-increasing middle-age spread, I am also acutely aware of those in our community for whom a birthday will no longer come around again. Too many taken too young from us by this disease.
Back in 2004, I had to spend my birthday in the hospital just after breast cancer surgery. My post-surgery drains were still attached, but I was allowed out for the day to celebrate. I felt a bit strange swathed and bandaged, with my drains hooked up and hidden under a loose top but I was back out in the world for the first time, and it felt good. The sun shone and everything looked as if it had been imbued with added colour and life. I really was looking at everything through fresh eyes and with deep gratitude.
In the intervening years since that day, I have had many ups and downs. I haven’t always felt grateful for them all, but one thing I have never ceased to be grateful for is friendship. My friendships have grown and deepened since that time, as new friendships made online have added to my stock of joy and happiness. Your friendship, support, and love are the best gift I could ever have, not just on my birthday, but always.
Happy birthday, Marie. Thank you for all the good you do, because of the woman you have become! Love. Karin
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A huge happy birthday Marie. May this be a wonderful next stage in your life. Love Audrey
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Wonderful post. Have a lovely birthday!
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Thank you, Jackie and Audrey, you are both one of my oldest – not in terms of years but longevity 😉 friends in this online space. I’ve learned a lot from you and am grateful for your support over the years.
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Happy birthday! It’s hard to remember sometimes that every day is a blessing. Birthdays are a great time to reflect on all the wonderful things that life surrounds us with.
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So true Sarah x
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Happy, Happy Birthday Week, Marie!!!!! Thank you for being you. JoAnn xoxo
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Thank you JoAnn xxx
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