My Dear Marie,
I am sorry I have been so out of touch. I hope things with work and family/friends matters have been good to you. You have done so much travelling – I am in awe of your enthusiasm and energy! I went back to all the e-mails we exchanged and again experienced such gratitude for your love, your support, and your encouragement.
I could use a bit of that now. I am once again facing a new cancer – the THIRD in 6 years. How? Can it really be true? I know it is true but it doesn’t feel real – can’t quite wrap my head around it.
I had my usual diagnostic mammos and ultrasounds at my breast center. The mammos showed nothing, but the US’s picked up a suspicious area of concern. I was immediately scheduled for a biopsy that was located in my axilla, adjacent to my right breast. I was terrified that I might have mets from my left breast, but stayed fairly calm – and so fortunate the results came back so quickly.
No, thank heavens, there was no metastatic carcinoma detected. But when I was given the diagnosis it was still shocking – I have B-cell non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. It never entered my mind! Did I mention THREE cancers over 6 years?!?! However, I feel enormous gratitude that I am still NED with the MBC and metastatic cervical cancer.
I am being scheduled for a PET scan. Then my oncologist and I will determine a treatment plan. Physically, I feel fine – but I have experienced profound fatigue over the past 8 months; I thought it was due to still deeply grieving for Hugh – perhaps it was from both grief and the lymphoma (the only symptom on the list I read about). The worst has been having to tell my children – their shock and anguish has been palpable, but they have both been giving me lots of hope and encouragement and BIG love.
I have realized over this past two weeks that I cannot do this alone. I need to allow myself to ask for support and encouragement. It has been a very heavy and hard road I’ve been on – but I know so many others are suffering right now – and that makes me feel selfish. My therapist is of course encouraging me to do all I am able to gather a loving and supportive network. So I am sheepishly stepping into a zone in which I have not been comfortable, but realizing that it resulted in isolation and stagnancy as I was determined to go it alone.
I have a request for you, Marie, and I hope you will be very candid if it seems inappropriate – I am truly not in my right mind at this time so forgive me if what I ask for is out of line. I need all my bloggy friends in our BC community – you all have been so incredibly kind and loving and supportive, especially over these last three years since Hugh died. Would it be possible for you to give a brief word about my news – maybe on your round-up, or however you deem appropriate?
At any rate I will keep you posted. I am in a holding pattern, but expect to have the PET scan and a treatment plan soon. Thank you for listening. I hope you are having a good week-end, relaxing and having some fun.
With Much Love,
Karen XOXOXOXO
Ah, Karen. Sending you lots of love and light. Enough, universe! Leave Karen alone!
Thank you for the update.
Katie
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Oh, Katie, I feel your love, and see that light – will hold it close to my heart. Thank you! xox
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Prayers coming your way Karen.
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Thank you so much, Melissa! xox
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I am wrapping you in my thoughts, prayers, and love, dear Karen. What a bummer. You do not in any way deserve any more challenges.
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Thank you Lois for all the thoughts, prayers and love. You have always been such a kind, caring friend. Sending hugs to you! xox
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Karen, I’m so glad you asked Marie to share your news with us. You know how much we all love you and value your eloquent kindness. We’ve got your back, and I know we will all look forward to more updates. I hope you will have a do-able treatment plan for this. No wonder you were tired! I’d never wish this explanation on you, but at least you know the reason now. Much love to you, dear lady. xoxo, Kathi
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Oh, My dear Kathi, you’ve no idea how grateful I am for you wonderful message – you got my back – what an incredible gift, a powerful truth to strap on to help get me through this latest chapter of my life. Thank you!
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Than you for sharing. A non-writer, I entered the world of blogosphere shortly after I retired and relocated to a new city 2,000 miles away from children, grands, family and friends. Karen Sutherland, my non-blogger, blogosphere friend, wrote positive and uplifting comments. They inspired and motivated me to continue in my new role as a blogger and for this I am grateful. She is in my prayers.
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Oh, dear Yvonne, Thank you for taking the time to write this message. I LOVE your blog, and am so happy to know that I was able to express my admiration and enjoyment with your beautifully written posts.. Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. xox
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Sending much love and peace to you …may we give you the strength to get through this xxx
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oh, Dear Helen, I think of you often and wonder at how you have handled the hard, devastating challenges of late. How generous and kind you are for sending me your love, peace, and strength. xox
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Dearest Marie,
There just aren’t words adequate enough to thank you for what you have done for me. All the love, prayers, encouragement, and good thoughts that have been expressed overwhelms and humbles me. But they also have provided a renewed sense of self empowerment and the bright light of hope. No matter what happens, I know that nothing can take all these marvelous gifts away from me. EVER. I hold them, and all of our dear friends close to my heart, which is brimming with gratitude and joy. Much Love to You, and Thank You! Karen XOXOXO
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Dear Karen (through Marie’s blog),
Although I do not know you, I just want to send you my support. 3 cancers in six years. I can’t even imagine what that must be like and how frustrating and confusing it is to get a new diagnosis. There are no words. Just know that we all are thinking of you and your family and do want to hear updates about your health as you are able. Best of luck and health to you.
Carrie (littlebsbigc)
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Dear Carrie,
How kind of you to write the lovely, supportive words you left for me. I looked at your blog, read several of your posts – beautifully written- and see that you and your family have been through so much. I will hold you close to my heart and I wish you all the best. I will try to post an update soon. Love, Karen xoxo
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Karen, you have been such a supportive part of our community. I wish I had the eloquent words like you do. You are in my thoughts and prayers. A third cancer in six years…. I sincerely wish that you get the care that you deserve with positive outcomes. As you have helped so many of us with your soothing words, may you continue to be surrounded by love and light. 💖🙏💞 xoxo- Susan
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Hello, Dear Susan! Thank you so much for you kind words and good wishes for me. I am so happy we found each other on FB..I will try to get another update out as soon as I am able – still not completely sure there has been no MBC tagging along with the lymphoma. I love that you are sending me love and light! I need some uplifting and a lot more clarity. Love you, XOXO.
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Oh Karen, I just read this post. I am deeply sorry you are facing another cancer. Glad it is not MBC but man – this just sucks. Sending you love and a hug. Be good to yourself. Sometimes all we can do is take one breath at a time. I hope you find some peace in them. ~Catherine
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Oh, sweet Catherine, I was so happy to find your message here! Yeah, this sucks. The possibility that there is MBC along with the lymphoma is mind boggling. When the first biopsy showed no MBC, I wasn’t aware that just because it did not show up in the one lymph node, did not mean that I might still have MBC sneaking about. I know you are going through so much yourself; I think of you and am always sending my best juju for a successful outcome for you. and YUP, one breath at a time…best we can do. Love you! Karen
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