Weekly Round Up
Time for this week’s round-up of the best of the blog posts which I’ve read over the past week. These are the posts that have moved me, taught me something, inspired me, and which I’ve wanted to share with you. Don’t forget if you have written a post which you would like readers to see, just leave a comment below.
As we come close to the finishing line for the WEGO Health Activist Writer’s Month I am sorry to say my commitment has waned, but thankfully others stuck with it and so we have some wonderful writing this week from The Pink Underbelly, Yvonne Watterson, Audrey Birt and Renn.
As Philippa continues to mourn the death of her father in her native Scotland, she writes beautifully of her emotions at this time, in words that really resonated for me.
These are strange days, ones of some kind of unseen transition. A transition in the emotional sense. I am caught off-guard by unexpected tears, prompted by something unknown yet powerful. I feel an abrupt shift in my foundations. The psychological rock upon which I stand has been shaken and I find myself stumbling, a little uncertain and unclear of my path.
One of the stumbling blocks that many bloggers writing about cancer come up against is what to do with their blog as they move further away from the cancer experience. Many of us have written about this changing identity and need to refocus in our writing lives. This week it is Andrew‘s turn and Florence also admits to a case of bloggers block. I am really interested in this question of what motivates us to keep on blogging and I think it is something I would like to explore further with you at some point in the future. In the meantime I welcome your thoughts on the topic here.
For me, it is the sense of community which we have created through our blogs that keeps me motivated to keep on blogging – and this is wonderfully expressed in Jackie’s guest post for #BCSM on community:
Telling stories, offering comfort and advice, sharing the highs and lows, being there for each other, both online and offline. If that’s not a community, I don’t know what is.
Jackie also writes that true communities rejoice and grieve together, and this came home to us this week as Jody Schoger a driving force in #BCSM revealed her cancer has come back. Our thoughts are with Jody as she faces a second round in the ring with cancer.
We’ve seen how transformational and powerful Twitter communities such as #BCSM are – they have created a new path for others to follow – so I am excited to introduce you to a new Twitter community – Health Care Social Media Buddy Mentoring #hcsmbm. The idea behind it is to work together as an online community to develop a buddy mentoring system to help those who are in need of assistance to navigate social media sites for health care information. It is very much in its early stages but if you want to learn more about what it’s all about, head on over to Vanessa Reid’s blog to find out more.
Many of you referred to Peggy Orenstein’s New York Times article “Our Feel Good War on Breast Cancer” in your tweets and blogs this week. It is a topic that elicits a very vocal and passionate response. MBC secretary, Katherine O’Brien has provided a helpful summary of the contents of the article.
When you have read Peggy’s article, head on over to Beth’s blog and read her poem “Sweet Talk”. It provides the perfect poetic accompaniment.
If I die from this disease
Is it because I didn’t appease
your stereotype,
your noble made-for-TV-movie-heroine,
a smiling stereotypical sufferer?
Liza Bernstein has been sharing her experience of Tamoxifen and its unpleasant side-effects – something that isn’t talked about as openly as perhaps it should be. And it seems to have been the week for discussing things more openly – Laura Price writing about survivor guilt; Jan writing movingly and honestly about the true realities of living with stage IV cancer; Dr Ann Becker Schutte on coping with health stigma; Eileen about the strain cancer puts on relationships; Chris sharing the male perspective of changing body image with cancer (read Pasha’s wonderful words on body and self-image) and Debbie on feeling sexy after cancer; Scorchy about the physical pain of cancer and Nancy about a topic that many of us may think but not speak about – does having cancer actually make you a better person? I don’t think it does makes us necessarily better people – I pretty much think our personalities stay the same – but one thing I do think can change, is that we can find a new way of looking at our lives, and/or exploring new possibilities. Yvonne Newbold writes of this in her blog:
For many of us, new opportunities open up that would never have been possible without a cancer diagnosis…Without cancer, I would never have written this blog, which is now read by people all over the world, many of whom have become really supportive online friends. Without this blog, I wouldn’t ever had the chance virtually dropped into my lap to turn it into a stage play, with me also being able to play the title role. Now how exciting is that?
In the search to find meaning in the cancer experience – check out the video of Wendy Lichtenthal, a clinical psychologist at Memorial Sloan-Kettering shared on The Anti-Cancer Club blog – many of us have turned to the creative arts like Sarah’s oil painting which represents her journey with cancer.
Finally, I often say that while my blog is about cancer, it is also very much about life so I really identify with this quote from Terri Wingham’s blog:
Whether or not you have survived cancer, life is never perfect. There are plenty of reasons each of us struggles to drag our egos or emotions or even our physical bodies off the couch and find a dream that will keep us going.
Until next week, keep on dreaming…
Yours with love
Marie xxx
Thank you very much for the always-anticipated round-up, and thanks for the shout out to my blog post. It’s been quite a week for a variety of topics. Much to contemplate. xo
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Thanks for the mention:) Interesting question…what motivates us to keep on blogging? For me, I began blogging about my “cancer experience”, and figured that once it ended, I would stop blogging. But then I realized that my “cancer experience” is never really going to end, so therefore I will keep on blogging!
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Great answer Flo!
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Lots of great reading this week! Thank you so much, Marie, for keeping us connected and for introducing us to more amazing bloggers.
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Thank you for the round-up, Marie. As Jan says, there is much to think about and take away. I can’t exactly say why I keep writing Bumpyboobs -except that it saved me in hard times and was a point of celebration in the good ones. The blog has given a voice to my story, not that anyone needs to read it, but I guess I need to say it, even ‘after’ cancer. ~Catherine
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Love your answer Catherine and am so glad you continue to write!
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I’m filled with so many emotions as I consider what our community has gone through, and is currently facing. I have a lot of reading to do, and a lot of conversations with God.
XOXOXO,
Brenda
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Brenda, how wonderful to hear from you again – your voice in the blogosphere is sorely missed x
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There’s are so many great posts here Marie and I just love your weekly round up. The hardest one is the news from Jody that her cancer has come back. While we were feeling so good about the #BCSM community and that Jackie wrote about how we share joy and grieve together. This news certainly hit all of us hard. Thank you for always connecting our community. So excited about #hcsmbm and enjoying catching up on some of the posts that I missed. Hugs and XoXoXo – Susan
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Susan I was certainly struck by the irony of that too!
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More great links to keep me busy on a Sunday afternoon. Thank you, Marie.
I was a bit sad to see that Andrew was refocusing. I’m a big fan of his blog and I really liked his book – I am reading the books he mentions reading during his treatment. These are not about cancer but cover other topics like debt and immigration and stuff like that.
I started blogging a few years before I was diagnosed so the question was: do I or do I not write about cancer? In the beginning I didn’t. In fact I pre-programmed posts for when I was in the hospital so no one would know. I changed my mind for various reasons which I talked about in a post I called “The Antithesis of a Fairy Tale” http://thefranco-americanflophouse.blogspot.fr/2012/05/antithesis-of-fairy-tale.html.
What I said then still holds true today: ” It is not my desire to turn the Flophouse over to this topic alone. My diagnosis and treatment is a part of my life but I don’t want it to define my whole life. I love to write and do research about all kinds of topics (citizenship, FATCA, immigration and the like) and I am going to keep the focus there because I love to write, I love to share interesting things I’ve discovered, and because it makes me happy. But from time to time I’ll talk about this too.”
Or to put it another way I have become painfully aware that I only have so many Life Credit Units and I don’t want to look back on my life to discover that I spent all of them in the same place. 🙂
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Victoria, what a wonderful, wonderful response to the question of blogging motivation – thank yoU!
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Nice weekly roundup and covers some of the more interesting issues. Does cancer make one a ‘better person,’ or a blessing in disguise is one of those. I think all of us find ways to make it more meaningful as part of the coping mechanism, as well as the awareness of our mortality makes us more aware of what we have, and the need to care and enjoy it while we can. So there is an element of truth to cancer – or similar life threatening even – make us a ‘better person’ through becoming more mindful and aware.
But I don’t think I was a ‘bad person’ before either!
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Great points as always Andrew!
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dear marie,
this is a wonderful round-up – i clicked on so many new blogs i didn’t know about but will surely be following. thank you for that!
love, XOXO,
karen, TC
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Hi Marie,
The final paragraph in this posting sums it up for me… sometimes you just have to take the rough with the smooth and live….
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