Guest Post: “I’m Really Good At Stress”
Guest Writer Today – Author and Life Coach, Martine Brennan
I don’t know about you but I’m really good at stress!
I can stress myself out any time I like.
All I have to do is play the tape of all my ‘what ifs’
What if the fibromyalgia comes back again and I can’t walk or use my hands?
What if I don’t earn enough to pay the bills?
What if one of the breast lumps I’ve had on and off all my life turns out to be cancerous?
What if the doctor makes a mistake and tells me it’s not cancer and then it’s too late for treatment?
I play these tapes (and just a few others!) and I rehearse what I will do if/when these awful things happen. At this point, I’m sure I have all those nasty chemicals coursing through my system going ‘way-hey’ and ‘we’re on a roll here folks!’ Then I worry about the damage I am doing to myself by giving the nasty stuff a free ride in my blood stream!
The only way I know how to stop this avalanche of stress in myself is to make a decision to come out of tomorrow and Be Right here, Right now
First, I take a deep breath. Then I look around the room. I really take in the fact that I am here. In spite of all the challenges I have experienced in my life and all the times I thought I wouldn’t make it. I am really here.
Right here! And right here, right now, the bills are paid. The lump I grew last month is almost gone. Today, I have no trouble walking or using the computer. I allow myself to savour the reality of today, the goodness of today. I actively seek out the beauty in my day. The pleasure of hot water for a shower at the flick of a switch! The colours of the trees and the mountain through my window! The smell of my morning coffee in my favourite mug! I could go on but I think you get the picture.
I used to think that if I rehearsed all the possible bad things that somehow my rehearsal would protect me from them.
But I learned the hard way that this isn’t so.
Maybe one day, trouble will find me once again but if it does I will have as many stress-free days in the bank as I can.
If you would like some help in paying attention to the good stuff you can find my Happiness Book here to download today.
About the author
Martine loves genealogy, writing, knitting, baking and social justice, not necessarily in that order! She has been recently shortlisted for the Blog Awards Ireland 2012 and can be found at http://www.martinebrennan.com/
I think most women are “really good at stress.” We worry not only about our own worst case scenario possibilities, we also worry about worst case scenarios for our loved ones. We think this prepares or protects us and them, but of course it doesn’t. Thanks for the great words of advice and the reminder to try to live in the here and now.
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As one who overstresses often, I really appreciate your advice. I will strive to put things more into perspective, be in the moment, and practice relaxation techniques. Thanks for the reminder. If we don’t take care of our own bodies, who will? xox
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you said it Jan!
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I think I’m good at handling stress, but the last few weeks may have proved me wrong. My back hurts and I’m having to breathe deeper than usual. I’ve gone over everything it could be and have decided it’s asthma, but haven’t taken the next step to find out. I honestly believe it’s asthma. I’ve had this before, and asthma can be stress induced.
I’m processing stress in 3D, but my days are wonderful! I’m working toward a goal that’s more challenging than you can imagine, but I’m enjoying most every moment of it… except for worrying about my darling dog, Goldie… OK…. I will now email my doctor and make SURE it’s asthma. Thanks.
XOXOXO,
Brenda
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I’m processing stress in 3D – what a great line Brenda..though sorry to hear that you are experiencing a stressful time…hope all is resolved soon xxxx
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Hi Brenda, I think you raised a really important point there. A lot of stress is down to a lack of information. I am so glad you are going to get some for yourself. Thinking of you x
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Hi Jan, I laugh at myself sometimes about how when stressed I can then stress myself about being stressed. I see the practise of being here NOW as a life long one. I will have good days and not so good days but I will keep on until it is like brushing my teeth, something that is woven into the fabric of my day. x
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Hi Nancy, there is really something in what you say about women. I think worrying/stressing is taught to us as girls as being a part of loving, almost as if it makes us good wives and mothers.
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