Health Activist Writer’s Month Challenge Day Two #HAWMC
Day two of the WEGO Health Activist Writer’s Month which I have signed up for – a month dedicated to the art of writing about health.
I am thrilled that two of my favorite writers, Jan Hasak and Yvonne Watterson, have signed up for this challenge after reading my post yesterday. If you’d like to join us, check out more details in the link at the end of this post.
Day Two and I am really up for today’s writing challenge. It fits in nicely with my usual Monday Motivation theme and even better is titled “Quotation Inspiration” – perfect for a quotation junkie like me. My challenge today is to find a quote that inspires me and free write about it for 15 minutes.
There are so many quotes I could choose from, but then I came across this one by Oscar Wilde and knew it was just what I should write about today.
One’s real life is often the life that one does not lead.
Isn’t it true for so many of us? Do you ever get the feeling that there is another you out there, another life that you should be leading? The life in which all your talents, your values, your heart and soul are aligned to your true purpose.
Your real life is where your heart wants to lead you. We get a glimpse of it in our dreams – not our night time dreams, but those waking daydreams we allow ourselves from time to time. Often it is a dream from childhood. What did you dream about becoming when you grew up? Who did you want to be?
When I was a little girl, I dreamed of being a writer. I aspired to be Jo March from Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women – one of my favorite girlhood books (along with LM Montgomery’s Anne of Green Gables). She was a writer, a lover of literature, she was strong-minded, she was unconventional, she was creative, she was feisty and at a time in history when women’s options were limited, she represented the possibility of another kind of life. So, like Jo, I wrote stories for my younger brother and sister, I read constantly and I dreamed of being a writer (unlike Jo, I always planned to marry).
Yes, I set myself firmly on track to my real life when I was a little girl. Except, somehow I came off that track at some point. My confidence in my writing abilities was shaken when I left school and went to university. I felt surrounded by so many better writers and thinkers than I was and set myself too high a standard which I couldn’t possibly reach. I decided if I couldn’t live up to this standard, I couldn’t be a writer. I abandoned plans for a postgraduate journalism course, started working in an office and buried my creativity for many years. I stopped living my real life.
The key to unlocking that creativity and finding myself back on track again came with my breast cancer diagnosis. During the time I was off work for treatment, I fully embraced the opportunity to explore and give full reign to my creativity again. I started writing once more. I wrote from my heart; I wrote for me and not to reach some ideal standard. I rediscovered my love for writing and found myself taking the first steps to leading an authentic life.
I still have moments of doubt, especially after reading another great post when preparing the weekly round up (such talented writers in the blogosphere!) but as I have grown older, I am learning not to compare myself so much. We all have our own styles of expressing ourselves – the most important thing is that it comes from an authentic place.
It wasn’t a straight track back to leading my real life. I struggled hugely having to return to my regular job, where my creativity was stifled. I felt so conflicted – I knew I wasn’t living my real life, but mortgage and bill demands meant I felt I had no choice. This time, however, I didn’t give up on my dreams. I started Journeying Beyond Breast Cancer, to keep my writing dream alive, and 3 years later, I am closer to living my real life. Together, with fellow blogging enthusiast, Lorna Sixsmith, I now run Write On Track, a blog coaching and copywriting service, and am a trainer on social media courses. I regularly give presentations on blogging and social media throughout the country and internationally. I tell you all this to let you know that it is never too late to start living the life you were meant to live.
One last thought before I finish….
As a child I was really disappointed that Jo didn’t marry handsome, rich Laurie and was at a loss to understand why she fell in love with Mr Bhaer, the much older (at 40 he was ancient in my mind), badly-dressed, unromantic academic. Well reader, I too ended up marrying my very own Mr Bhaer – an older than me, sartorially challenged, academic.. and just like my heroine Jo, he is the perfect life partner for me. And therein lies another lesson for today – sometimes you are leading the life you are meant to live, you just haven’t realized it yet. Sometimes all it takes is a little patience, determination and some creative thinking to bring you closer to to the life you were meant to lead.
Thoughts on Today’s Challenge
I already suspect that today’s challenge shall be my favorite. I loved writing it and discovering that I am closer to leading my real life than even I realized. How about you? Are you living an authentic life? What small step could you take today to get closer to your real life? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Marie,
I could take pages telling you why this resonates with me so much. Like you, I have loved writing/been writing since I was a little girl. While I’m lucky enough to use my journalism degree and writing in my day job for a big engineering firm, corporate writing is not always the ideal 🙂
Like you, breast cancer brought writing back to me in two ways. First, writing about the experience itself in a book and blog and learning that they have helped women brought me a satisfaction I haven’t had since I was a mental health worker in a former life. Second, it brought poetry back to me, a part of my life that I thought had left me forever. To answer your question about whether we are living our real life–I am working on it. I applied to graduate school for an MFA in poetry writing and I think I have been accepted- I got a voice mail from the program administrator on Friday and need to call her back today. I am both scared and excited. Thank you for this marvelous post!!!!
P.S. I can’t believe I typed this on my phone!!!
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Totally inspired by your comment Jackie..and not just because you typed all of that on a phone!
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I loved this post, Marie – inspiring indeed. I can identify with what you say about the cancer journey giving you the courage to give things a go and express yourself in a creative way. As a social worker who has always been interested in writing – but was very easily cowed by the notion that others did it better, just as you describe! – I am hoping that one good thing that can come out of this horrible experience is being brave enough to ‘put myself out there’ and give some writing a go. My baby blog sprang from these thoughts, and I’m I’m really enjoying it so far. While it’s strange writing about such intimate topics in a public forum, somehow it doesn’t seem so scary after all I’ve been through in the past year. Hopefully I can hold my nerve! It is fantastic to hear about the journey you have made and how much closer you have come to the life you dreamed of living. And I love the story of you and your Mr Bhaer!! I will confess that as a girl I had a bit of a thing for Mr B. His bearded countenance looked very dashing in the version I read countless times as a girl – and he was such a beautiful character. So glad to hear you’ve found your very own Mr B….though I guess your writing career might not leave much time for starting a boys’ school!
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Loved your comment Liz 🙂 My notions of handsome when I was younger and ahem..for a long time afterwards was very much of the tall, dark variety – took me a while to realize what was fantasy and real – and which was better for me. I know exactly what you mean about writing about intimate topics – it’s incredible how much we end up revealing that we never really intended to at the outset. But then, when you find a supportive community of others travelling the same path as we’re on, it makes sense. Keep writing Liz!
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Marie, now you’ve got my head spinning. I don’t even know how to sum up WHO I am NOW, or what life I lead, much less which life I was INTENDED to lead.
Thanks for the link to the Health Activist Writers Challenge. I was just going to try and find it on my own. Am thinking about jumping in (with all the time I DO NOT have) Hey, maybe I just figured out who I am … someone who keeps veering off track to do something she hopes will have purpose and benefit- and lead her on a direction – lead her to one track that’s going somewhere. I tell ya, all this social networking and makes that a challenge for me .. so easy to just find something else to get involved with before you finished the last project. 🙂
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You said a mouthful there sista 🙂 Oh do come join us in this challenge Rachel – it’s not too late to join in!
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Fabulous post Marie, like you I loved that book and wanted to be Jo. I was tickled pink that you have both married academics etc 🙂
You are such a good writer but I totally empathise with you re not having the confidence when you compare yourself to ‘better’ writers, been there and still doing that too. Good luck with your challenge and I hope you enjoy it, Lorna x
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hey everyone, meet my lovely business partner and friend Lorna 🙂
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Just signed up Marie. And I’m gonna go tell a few other warrior writers about it too. They may be insane enough to take the challenge on top of all else they’re into. Hard to resist for some of us 🙂
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Hi Lorna! How are you?
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Hi Marie,
Excellent post!! It’s easy to compare ourselves with other writers, isn’t it? But the truth is, as you know, the world needs all these diverse writers, and you are an awesome one!
I’ve always been a writer, from the time I was a little girl, but I worked as a writer in the business world, which also stifles the creativity a bit. There’s very little freedom to write what you want, whether it’s a magazine or technical writing (yuck on the latter).
I admire you for taking up the challenge, not an easy undertaking. Part of me is tempted to go for it, but I’m a bit chicken, afraid I won’t have enough ideas or be able to write every day.
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oh please Beth..do good for it! You get two get of writing day passes 😉 and I bet once you start the creative ideas will start flowing..you are a wonderful writer as we know..so go for it 🙂
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I absolutely loved, loved, loved this post – you weren’t afraid to show your vulnerabilty – what Brene Brown says we look for in others 😉 and in doing so you have empowered the rest of us to take a chance on our own dreams
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Marie, another gem!
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I am getting a kick out of seeing how infectious your enthusiasm is Marie, as others follow your lead and join up – you are such a great motivator!
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I loved these glimpses into the young Marie…and it’s wonderful to read how you have rediscovered your love and passion for writing – I bet after all you’ve been through in your life you are all the better writer for it!
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I have to agree with emma – our life experiences are what makes us writers – all the great writers have suffered
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You’ve really given me food for thought today!
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I thought I knew all Oscar Wilde’s quotes, but had never heard of this one – it’s powerful and moving
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One of my all time favorite Journeying Beyond Breast Cancer posts 🙂
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You never to cease to amaze me Marie – your creativity and your enthusiasm appear to be boundless – you are a real inspiration to so many of us x
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I read someone’s facebook update today and it was somthing about your life begining at the end of your comfort zone..then I read this post..I think the universe is trying to tell me something 😉
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How many of us often end up in jobs we don’t want because we didn’t have the courage to follow our hearts? This is the lesson I get from this – thanks for the wake up nudge
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We all can find ourselves dreaming about the life we’ should have left if we had made different decisions at crucial points in our past. .Thanks for reminding us that it’s never too late to get on the right track again.
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Wilde’s quote has left me thinking about the reasons why we don’t live authentic lives – maybe it’s because of financial considerations, others’ expectations of us, or through our own fears.
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You alluded to it here Marie, but the one of the great advantages I am finding as I grow older I find is that I care less about people think and more about living the life I want to live .
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also makes me think of the “five regrets of the dying” posts, references,etc that have been doing the rounds on social media sites – we don’t want to get to the end of our lives and regret that we didn’t live the lives we were put here to live on purpose and with authenticity,
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Wow! Thanks for all your great responses to this – I got as big a kick out of reading them as I did from writing this post 🙂
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This is a fabulous topic, Marie. Oscar Wilde’s take on life certainly unleashed a flood of great responses. I’ve always cared about what other people thought of me. Like most women, I sought to please others at the expense of my own wishes. Yet, often that backfired, even in my marriage. The more I tried to please certain people, the less they liked me and the less they respected me. So my authentic life is making known my true wishes and learning to say “no” more often. Then I can say “yes” to the things that enrich my life and help me be who I’ve always wanted to be: an artist, writer, musician, and runner. Thanks for this wonderful writing assignment. XX
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Jan, I think especially we, as women have a hard time with this one – we become the ones who sublimate our own dreams to further those of others. Well done on reclaiming your life as you are taking steps to do now. You inspire me x
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Two of my favourite books also. I wants to be Anne of Green Gables so badly as a child. Maybe I still do want to be like her. Excellent post Marie. And I married the older man too. We should start a little group ;0) I think that it is never too late to find the dream and start living it. Looking forward to see you soon xx
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I was hoping you’d comment Mona 🙂 I thought this might resonate with you 😉
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This was lovely, lovely, lovely. One of your best posts, Marie — and that is saying a lot b/c you write so many great posts!!
I am tempted to join the challenge too… but I’m not on Twitter or FB and I worry as well that I won’t have the time to post every day.
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aw thanks Renn..and please do consider joining us!
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Such a wonderful post, Marie. I guess a lot of us wanted to be like Jo! And I, too, was so disappointed Jo didn’t marry Laurie. Every time I watch the movie I get a little perturbed with her again… I know ultimately she made the right choice…so I don’t know why I still feel that way… I guess Laurie was just so darn likable.
Writing has always been a passion of mine as well, and since cancer it’s taken on even greater significance. I guess a lot of us feel this way. Writing gives meaning to our experiences especially when we get to share what we write. There’s nothing quite like knowing someone is reading your words and benefiting in some way from doing so.
I’m so glad you are getting closer to leading your “real” life, Marie. I’m happy for you.
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Aw it’s wonderful to read your comment here Nancy – I feel we are very much kindred spirits when it comes to our love of writing and blogging.
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Love, love, love this. Thank you for sharing your gift of writing and your quote with the world. Here’s to all of us taking risks and getting a little closer to the life we were always meant to lead. In the words of one of my favourite writers, “It’s the possibility of a dream coming true that keeps life truly exciting.” (Paulo Coehlo from the Alchemist). If we keep following the omens, we will all find our discover our Personal Legend. Hugs from Zanzibar! T xo
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