Weekly Round Up: The Survivors Day Edition
Time for this week’s round-up of the best of the blog posts which I’ve read over the past week. These are the posts that have moved me, taught me something, inspired me, and which I’ve wanted to share with you. Don’t forget if you have written a post which you would like readers to see, just leave a comment below.
Today is National Survivors Day and I am in a quandary. I know that the label survivor doesn’t sit well with many of you with its triumphalism undertones and I totally get that (see my post last year on the topic – Reframing Cancer Survivorship). Knot Telling contacted me last week to let me know about her latest post on the terminology of cancer (I encourage you to read it as it’s an excellent contribution to the discussion) and she makes the point that the word “survivor” annoys her because “at the moment I haven’t survived it yet; I still have cancer in my body.” And yet, I also get that many people want to celebrate this day for their own reasons. So, I am passing you over to Anne Marie‘s blog to put things in context today:
It doesn’t matter what language we use. Some words get one group in an uproar while another group is comforted. By the same word. I think it’s important to really grasp the concept that we are all different and each one of us has a right to “do cancer” in a way that works best for us.
We are all different indeed and we can learn so much from each other, while still respecting each other’s views and experiences. I thought of this as I read Nancy’s latest post on bloggers who stop blogging. I am fascinated by the question of why those of us who keep blogging on the topic of cancer do so. In the four years since I started my own blog I have watched it grow and change as I have watched others do the same. We have all been touched and influenced by each other in some way and our voices all add something precious to the conversation. I also am thrilled when a friend hasn’t blogged in a while and takes to the keyboard again – hello Renn 😉
One of the ways in which many of us continue to blog is that we alter the focus of our blogs after a time. I’ve been following A Fresh Chapter blog since the beginning and watched how it and its author Terri has grown and developed in ways even she couldn’t have dreamed of. Her latest post on Turning The Page and Starting Fresh illustrates the point perfectly about how our blogs evolve.
Kari Ann makes a great point on one of her latest posts – there is so much more to our lives than the piece we share on our blogs (even if most of us share a lot!)
The Angelina Jolie story rumbles on and Susan shares a link to a post by Tami Boehmer with some strong words about Tami’s anger and frustration.
I bristled at all the attention and admiration bestowed upon Angelina, when in contrast I feel the real heroes are the women facing metastatic (stage IV) cancer who garner little publicity, and worse, funding. I felt furious that so many wonderful women and men, many of them young and with small children, are dying every day. And they do this quietly as the pink parade goes on celebrating survivorship.
In a similar vein, Lori’s latest post contains an impassioned plea to those who want to “advise” her on metastatic cancer.
For the love of God, if you are not a metastatic breast cancer patient please stop telling me how to be one! If you want to be in dialogue then you need to listen to me as well. You need to hear the voices of metastatic patients, not just the sales pitch from organizations that are looking for your money and your volunteer hours. I respect your choices in where you want to be a, who want to be involved with, but it’s time to respect mine is well.
Laura supports Jolie’s decision and in her latest blog shares her personal experience of BRCA genetic testing in the UK, and what a BRCA+ diagnosis means.
The Pink Underbelly is sharing some information on Girls Love Mail, a charitable letter writing organization which sends handwritten letters of encouragement to those newly diagnosed and those going through cancer treatment. It is such a simple idea, but I can testify to the healing power of receiving hand-written cards unexpectedly in the mail at times when I needed encouragement and love.
Beautiful post from Philippa on the rituals surrounding her father-in-law’s death. I love the glimpse of another culture and tradition that Philippa shares with us and this particular post really meant a lot to me while reading it and thinking of my mother’s death.
Speaking of encouragement… Eileen provided just the quote I needed to read on her blog this week by Rumi.
Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.
Catherine is celebrating her fourth wedding anniversary – check out the gorgeous picture she shares from her wedding day.
And Flo is celebrating her hair growing back – 17 long months since her cancer treatment ended. And while we are on the subject of hair, check out Victoria’s sassy red do.
Audrey is writing about transitions.
A wonderful post from the über talented writer Yvonne Watterson on her love of books.
Mags Blog shares a comic strip on how her journey with cancer all began and Beth shares in moving words her personal journey to a prophylactic double mastectomy.
Finally this week, I leave you with a moving and beautiful quote from the latest post on the cancer in my thirties blog, written in memory of a fearless friend, Julie:
So, this year I resolve to be more like Julie. I resolve to check some things off my bucket list (and to make a bucket list). I resolve to just “go for it” more. I resolve to work on living my life to the fullest (I’m sure it will take me a while to get there, but I vow to work on it). And I plan to honor her memory by trying to find and nurture the little light that she saw inside of me when we were just girls on the edge of new beginnings.
Here’s to living life to the fullest while we still can.
Until next week.
Yours with love
Marie xxx
Thanks for the compliments on the haircut (and color), Marie. I’m still amazed that I have hair at all (and fingernails, eyebrows, and toenails).
This week I turned around and gave my overgrown lilac the same treatment. Before I started I turned to Cass Turnbull’s wonderful guide to pruning and read this in the very first chapter. (I’m sure there’s an even more interesting analogy to make here but I haven’t had enough coffee this morning to make the connection).
“If people understood plants’ responses to basic cuts, they probably could figure out all the rest of pruning on their own…I suspect that people think that pruning plants must be the same as cutting hair. But it’s not. If your hair worked like a plant, after a haircut your hair would grow 3 inches in a day or two (instead of a month) and the ends would be very, very bushy.”
Can I trade up and ask to be a plant? 🙂
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Oh Victoria you really did make me smile 🙂
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Cheers to living life to its fullest 🙂 I do appreciate your round-ups, Marie. Thank you for including my post, and thank you for grouping together our stories in such an interesting and informing way. Now, I’m off to do some reading! ~Catherine
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“Here’s to living life to the fullest while we still can.” Best advice anyone could give, in my opinion. Thanks!
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What a wonderful round up with such a great way of tying everything together and reminding us to live life to the fullest while we still can. Thank you so much for including me and Tami’s beautiful quote that tied so well with Lori’s post. I also loved Philippa’s post and how she wrote about a different culture looking at her father-in-law’s death which also helped me thinking about the death of my father and brother. I also have some reading to catch up on. Thank you Marie for bringing all of us together again in such a beautiful way.
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Thank you so much for including me in the roundup, Marie! And especially with that post, one that is near and dear to my heart.
And what a wonderful roundup! I look forward to visiting each blog, and I thank you for compiling this list for us each week. You obviously take care in your choices and you are doing a lovely thing for us as both readers and writers. xo
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What a wonderful collection of blogs and themes – thanks so much for putting it all together each week Marie
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What an excellent list to feature this week, Marie. This past week I posted about my recent trip to Texas. xo
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Lots to catch up this week
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I agree with Susan and Tammi. I have anger issues about being ignored. They had all kinds of breakthroughs for late stages of other cancers at ASCO this week and all they said about BC was about tamoxifen a 40 year old drug. With all the races and pink ribbons no new drugs for stage 4 BC. We need a stage 4 awareness race or march. I know we need to enjoy the life we have left and i do most of the time but sometimes my anger is still there.
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Thank you, Marie, for including my post in your round-up! I’m in great company. I so appreciate your doing this roundup so consistently to showcase bloggers’ work. Thank you.
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dear marie, another wonderful round-up! so many talented bloggers with posts that inspire and encourage and invite us, for so many varied reasons, to live life fully and well. and always, i find new blogs and their authors, so fascinating and gifted. i thank you for all the time and effort you so generously devote to bringing them all to us. much love, XOXO, karen, TC
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We should also be thanking you Karen for the time you take to leave such thoughtful comments on our blogs – it is always very much appreciated x
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Marie, your comment made me smile! It’s funny how I notice when my bloggy friends slow down their posting but don’t give any thought to what others might think when I slow down on my own blogging end. (Even tho that is precisely what Nancy’s blog was about this week!) So thank you for even noticing that I’ve been a little MIA. And thank you for including me in the roundup this week! I am newly inspired. 😉 xoxo
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🙂 Once again, thank you….
xoxo
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It’s always such an honor to be included in the Roundup. Thank you, Marie, for keeping us connected. xo
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It’s been really enlightening to read this article and have a chance to see some more blogs and connect to more funny, intelligent writers regardless of their medical situation. Thanks! x
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Hi Alice, thanks so much for stopping by to read this blog and for taking the time to leave a comment. Marie
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